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WHAT IS YOUR STAND; MINE IS STANDARD


To so many people when you talk about setting a standards what comes to their mind is being on a date with a supermodel, super rich, handsome dude, or beautiful and elegant, posh damsel. There is nothing wrong about that though. But your standards need to be discrete, clear and sound. Be mindful of this:

1. While stepping up your standards, bear in mind that having high standards that requires a person having the right qualities puts you on a new and better level of attractiveness.


2. When your standards are clear to you, you will be able to see that you cannot be happy with someone who does not want to be with you for what ever reason best known to them. Maybe he or she is not attracted to you.



3. I learnt from a friend that some people are attracted in diverse forms, Some are attracted based on  intelligence, Some are attracted by conducts, charisma and poise commonly called swag. Some in the color of the skin.


4. Some in handsomeness, superficial beauty, in voices and way of speaking, some in the body shape, some in their sartorial fashion sense, body fragrance and spiritual enthusiasm. Some are attracted by wealth also.

5. No matter what attracts your target, do not be someone else  because you want to catch up with him or her. If you guise yourself so that they may like you, the day you fail to service that which is an appealing trait for him or her continuous admiration, you are out of the league. Be yourself, someone who loves you for who you are will show up, its a function of time.


6. Countless people including me have tried to date someone who does not feel the same in return, it was impossible to be happy when your mind keeps on giving you an unsure signal about your stand with the other person who you want to date.


7. Please, if the other person those not feel the same in return, then there is no point venturing into the relationship, he or she disqualifies him or herself, simple.


8.  You deserve your happiness and you cannot be happy with someone who does not appreciate being with you, however, no matter how hot the person is, he or she does not meet your standard. It is just out of it because its unclear what they want,......

9. You can't predict what's on their mind and the illusion you perceive can make you act out your neediness and taken advantage of. It could hurt at first letting go of that which you desire, but he or she like you have a mind of their own and have a thing they want which you dont don't fit in to. Grab your self respect and move on.

10. Many people try to compromise on this standards and end up becoming miserable by hoping, chasing or waiting for someone who us not interested in a relationship with them. Let it go

11. Don't try to hang on to something not working, like spending the whole day tuning the ignition of a dead engine. Don't try to convince yourself that you are okay being in a relationship with partially engaged person. I once did it, Don't do that. Its harder to meet the right person if you spend all of your time with the wrong one.

12. Save a person a heartbreak; go ahead and share.....let's do this together.


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